Some Background Info

My Life

I was born in Miami, Florida. I grew up with amazing friends and family. I was interested in Art and Fashion. My dad died when I was nine years old from a heart attack. I give my mom all the credit in the world because I don't know how she did it. She lost the love of her life and became a single mom with the blink of an eye. Losing a dad at such a young age definitely contributes to my emotional intelligence and independence.

I pushed myself in high school and got into Pratt Institute for college. Moving to a big, new city by myself was scary but I loved it. I studied fashion and then got to experience it in the city itself. But in my senior year of college, I was diagnosed with a chronic pelvic pain that changed the course of my life.

My Diagnosis

Getting diagnosed, working on the symptoms, and working through the pain to have a regular life is a long story, one that I will dedicate an entire post for.

But the gist of it is that I was diagnosed and things got pushed into perspective. I didn't want to rush into a career, especially since I was not sure if I love fashion anymore. My senior year thesis was on wedding dresses, which introduced me to my love of the events and wedding world.

So after getting diagnosed, getting treatment, traveling Europe for a couple months, and working jobs like bartending, nannying, and substitute teaching, I got a chance to start working events in New York.

But before all that, I met my husband!

My Hubby

I met my husband through my best friend. I went to her boyfriends birthday party and they introduced us. At the time, since I was in New York and he was in Gainesville, I didn't think much of it. But a few months later he moved to New York for a summer internship and we started casually dating. Eventually, we were dating and living together in New York. He proposed to me three years later! We got married in Miami five months later!

My Career

I got my first job in events working for a flower shop in New York City. I started at customer service and moved my way up to the wedding coordinator. After a year there I wanted more. The shop just did flowers for events, but I wanted to do everything!

I moved on to work for an event design and production company. It was amazing. I was working on all kinds of events and working with clients all the way from invitations to the actual event day. And after three years, my husband and I felt it was time to move back to South Florida to be near family! I was so sad to leave the company I loved so much, but we felt it was time.

I worked for an events company in Miami for one year before starting my own company. It was scary, but I knew I could do it. Ive had my own company for almost six years and I won't ever be looking back!

My Fertility

We decided to start trying for a baby three years after getting married. Yes, during Covid. I was having trouble ovulating and realized pretty early on so went into fertility four months into trying. I found out I had PCOS, which was part of the reason I was having trouble getting pregnant. Ultimately, I needed to do a combination of Gonal Injections, Ovidrel Trigger shot, and IUI to get pregnant. I got pregnant my second IUI.

Also, I feel I will touch on this in a future post, but my husband and I have now been trying to have our second child for 14 months. Fertility is a mindfuck and it sucks. A lot.

My Baby Making Era

Now the point of all this. My baby making era. I have a 2.5 year old, I am trying to have more babies (literally actively trying), and I am trying to keep my successful career. Oh, and also trying to have a good relationship with my husband, who is also raising our son and constantly growing in his career. A baby's first year is all about survival. Constant decisions to keep them alive and comfortable: When do I start buying all the baby things? Am I using the right diaper brand? What foods should I start trying? After that actual parenting comes into the picture: How do you want them to be raised? What priorities do you want them to have? How do you want to handle tantrums? When do you start teaching things like potty training? There is a point in life where all that is happening at once combined with work decisions like: should he stay at his corporate job or take a chance and start something of his own? Can we afford to lose his health benefits? Should I take a backseat on my career to raise these little ones?

And to top it all off. We are in our thirties in this fucked up economic climate. We were one of the lucky few who bought in 2020 before Covid, which also means we are stuck in our starter home a bit longer than we thought. But with that, comes more questions.

I'm going to start writing about it all!